Physical Abuse

I did not grow up in a family where physical abuse existed; however, physical abuse was common in our neighborhood. This was true during my career in the military. Many careers have been ruined, but abuse continues even today.

I feel that abuse continues because the abused allows it to exist. It seems that the abused is normally female. Too many females seem to be insecure. Insecurity imprisons people.

I know it’s easier to say than do. I know many abused have tried to save the marriage or relationship, but continue to be abused.

In my verbal and written advice I beg people, especially young people, to be strong and make it perfectly clear in every relationship that no abuse, verbal or physical, will ever be tolerated.

I feel that when a person makes it  crystal clear what they demand and will or will not tolerate, the chances of abuse are much fewer. However, action, not words, must be exercised in every case.

Someone or anyone might, under certain conditions,  allow an abuse incident to occur once, NEVER twice.  Actually once is too many.

No one ever deserves to be abused and an abused person must believe that case studies show that an abuser never changes.

Physical abuse

Physical abuse is when a person touches your body in an unwanted  way. Effective Sex Education will alert you that no one, not even your father, mother, uncle, or brother, should touch you in an unwanted way. This includes unwanted kisses, touching the breast in a playing way, or holding you in an unwanted embrace. Please read our articles Teen Sex Ed Tips for more advice.

Violence may include: hitting, kicking, pulling hair, pushing, biting, choking, or using a weapon or other item to hurt you. Different kinds of people can be physical abusers — parents, stepparents, aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, grandparents, friends, babysitters, boyfriends, girlfriends, teachers, or coaches.

A lot of the time, people involved in an abusive relationship don’t recognize that they are being abused. It’s easy to look past abuse if you love someone, but you shouldn’t do that. You could be in danger. Don’t accept abuse from anyone. You are worth more than that.

How can you stay safe if someone is hurting you?

  • Tell someone you know and trust. The most important thing you should do if someone is hurting you is to tell someone you know and trust. Try talking to a teacher or counselor at school, or a family member who is trustworthy.
  • Make a plan to get away. Be sure to carry a cell phone programmed with important phone numbers. Also keep important numbers on a small piece of paper that you can easily get to. For example, if your boyfriend is hurting you, call your parents or a trusted friend to come and get you. If your parent is hurting you, call a friend or a friend’s parent. If you are old enough to drive, make sure there is gas in your car. Sometimes people who are being abused need to find a safe place to live for a time. Safe shelters can be found in your local phone book. Sometimes a person can stay with another relative or a friend.

Where can I find help if I am being physically abused?

  • National Domestic Violence Hotline:
      1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233) or
      1-800-787-3224 (TDD)
  • Girls and Boys Town National Hotline:
      1-800-448-3000 or 1-800-448-1833 (TDD)
  • Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline:
      1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)

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1 comment to Physical Abuse

  • My mom grew up in a physically & slxlauey abusive home and definitely made sure we didn’t grow up like that, but there were still alot of issues she hadn’t dealt with until after we were already grown… so do all you can to get YOU healthy and that will definitely help you in healthy parenting. =)Both DH and my parents divorced so that’s definitely a trend both of us have already claimed broken & our kids will NEVER have to deal with.

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